Cultivate calm and ease.
Simple, science-informed practices to help you downshift in the moment. Over time, learn to expand your tolerance and live with greater ease.
No equipment or experience needed • All practices under 5 minutes
Three Components of Regulation
These three areas of practice form a virtuous cycle of regulation, building greater ease and resilience over time.
Downshift
Simple breath and movement tools to bring stress into a workable range—so you can respond rather than react.
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Learn your body's early signals so you can catch stress before it becomes overwhelm.
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Practice validation, reduce self-judgment, and build steadier emotional resilience—without pretending everything is fine.
Explore relating practicesWhat's This All About?
Over the past several years, as a stressed out parent, startup founder, and volunteer EMT, I learned simple breath, movement, and relating practices to help bring stress and anxiety into a more workable range. It's no exaggeration to say that these simple tools have changed my life.
This site is my attempt to pay it forward, offering these learnings for free to anyone who might benefit.
Things are undeniably hard right now for many people. The goal is not to pretend otherwise, or to suggest that soothing our nervous system is all that's required. In my experience, tools like these help me to stay present in challenging situations, responding with more choice and clarity.
It's also worth noting that these practices work best as part of a bigger picture that includes human connection, time spent outdoors, and proper sleep, nutrition, and exercise. Sometimes, though, when some or all of those things are hard to come by, I fall back on these tools to get me through.
You are always the leading expert on your own life and nervous system. Please treat everything here as suggestions for experimentation. Try a practice, notice what changes (even a little bit), and discard what doesn't work for you. Be gentle with yourself, and remember that progress is often non-linear. If you have questions, comments, or suggestions, I'd love to hear from you.
Frequently Asked Questions
What should I expect from this approach?
Expect small, practical shifts—especially in how quickly you recover from stress. Many people notice they can bring intensity down a notch, catch stress earlier, and respond with a little more choice. The goal isn't to feel calm all the time. It's to keep stress in a workable range so you can stay present and take the next wise step.
Is this bypassing—using tools to avoid feelings?
It can be, if the intention is “make this go away at all costs.” That's not the goal here. Downshifting isn't suppression. It's support—bringing the intensity down so you can actually stay with what's real, instead of getting overwhelmed or shutting down.
Will this get rid of my anxiety?
These tools can reduce intensity in the moment and improve recovery over time, but the aim isn't “zero anxiety.” Anxiety is a normal human signal, often arising when there's a deeper emotion we don't feel resourced enough to feel right now. The aim is less spiraling, faster recovery, earlier detection, and a more compassionate relationship with what's happening in the moment. Over time, with this approach, anxiety becomes less of an issue.
What if a practice makes me feel worse?
Stop and return to normal breathing. Open your eyes and look around the room. Go smaller next time (shorter, gentler, fewer rounds), or skip that practice. Everyone's nervous system is different. If you have panic symptoms, trauma history, or a medical condition, go slowly and consider working with a qualified professional.
Do I need to do all of these practices to get benefits?
No. The fastest way to accomplish nothing is to try to do everything at once. There's no rush here. You could start with one cue + one tool for a week (example: “when I read an email that stresses me out → 3 physiological sighs”). Consistency beats intensity.
Is this therapy?
No—this is educational skills training. It can complement therapy, but it isn't a substitute for medical or mental health care. If you're experiencing severe distress, panic attacks, trauma symptoms, or thoughts of self-harm, seek professional support.
Does “regulation” mean I should tolerate unhealthy situations?
No. Regulation isn't about adapting to something unhealthy. It's about staying resourced enough to respond with clarity. Sometimes the right next step is a boundary, asking for help, changing a situation, resting, or taking action, not just breathing and enduring.
What if I don't feel much from breath practices?
That's common, especially at first. Each nervous system responds differently, and sometimes shifts will be small and subtle. Start smaller, practice briefly and consistently, and explore other tools (movement, muscle release, orienting, and awareness practices).